Tuesday, July 10, 2012

Dear Anonymous


We're not the giving up type 


 



*This video was made in response to an anonymous comment regarding adoption disruption. We respectfully ask our blog readers to take a "judge not" approach when making comments on our blog concerning this controversial topic. Building a family through adoption is extremely difficult. The decision to disrupt an adoption is very personal and, in most cases, heart wrenching for the family and the child. These families need your support much more than your judgement.

8 comments:

Katherine said...

Love it Valerie! The little boys are lucky to be a part of your family.

Lauren said...

This video made me cry (literally).. and then Kayden came and gave me a hug (to which I cried more)! Love you guys!!

Stacey Kirchner said...

Beautiful response to the comment! If this person ACTUALLY knew you they would never even think of you giving up. You're amazing!!

The crew said...

You are amazing more than words could say. I have never met you but can feel your strength and spirit through your posts. I have no idea what people are thinking when they say things like that. My husband and I have adopted 3 children and have recieved some terrible comments but we continue to push on and know that we are the lucky ones. We are the blessed and so are you. You have given these beauties a new life and in return have them in your life into eternities.

Zen Mama said...

That was beautiful.

I have a friend who had to disrupt an adoption. I know how heart-wrenching it was when she realized that she needed to be the mother to save him, but that she wasn't the mother to raise him. She has stayed close to the child, as "honorary aunt" status, and he is thriving in his new, eternal family, but she will never get over the ache of knowing that she is not his eternal mother.

I really appreciate how compassionate you are with your words on the subject. It really is a difficult and personal subject. That said, I'm so happy for your family that you've been able to adopt and adapt! What a blessing. You are such an inspiration. <3

Luv4thePaws said...

Thank you for the kind post for those of us families who HAVE struggled. Tammy D. told me our family was mentioned, and I read the hateful anonymous comment in your last post. It's sad that you shared your adoption joy, and an anonymous coward found it necessary to talk about families they do not even know. We struggled for 18 months befor putting our son in summer respite, and he is thriving. Yes, it breaks our hearts that he is not here, but it also warms our hearts knowing he is finally acting like a little boy.

Anonymous posters have nothing better to do than belittle others, and they should look at themselves, their lives, and realize what is lacking. Most often, they are unhappy, bitter people.

Congratulations on your adoption.
Kari, mother to Victor from Ukraine who we did NOT disrupt but others seem to think so....

D... said...

First of all, I just have to say that I think you are amazing! :) Secondly, I've enjoyed watching you on this journey all these years and know that your children truly are blessed (and all of them) to have you and Richard in their lives and as their parents. What a beautiful video! Thanks for sharing. Love you!!

Tiana said...

Seriously love the video and love you and all your littles! So happy for your two new ones to join your fam! Thank you for sharing your journey and love with all of us!